Comments for Cosmic Geek http://cosmic-geek.com Life is weird, but awesome. Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:50:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on What’s the deal with female gamers in voice chat? by Gnome Priest http://cosmic-geek.com/2012/04/21/whats-the-deal-with-female-gamers-in-voice-chat/comment-page-1/#comment-361 Gnome Priest Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:50:53 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=877#comment-361 I'm a female, 53 year old gamer (have played Warcraft for almost 8 years now, along with various other games). I am friendly, not shy and very low drama. I think I'm lucky in that I've never experienced sexual harassment over vent (probably because most of the guilds I've been in had several women, so guys were used to us talking over vent). However if pugging, and they are really disgusting or rude - I have no problem telling them over vent to knock it off. (But I have that "Mom" tone of voice I can wield when they annoy me and it normally works!) I have found over the years though that male players will behave themselves now much more then they used to. The exception to this is guilds that are predominately military men... who are deployed. Their phrases to each other are DISGUSTING, but still, they usually tone it down (or try to) once they realize I'm female and it makes me uncomfortable. I can see how a shy female, or one who is not familiar with some of the gross things guys say to each other, would be upset. I’m a female, 53 year old gamer (have played Warcraft for almost 8 years now, along with various other games). I am friendly, not shy and very low drama. I think I’m lucky in that I’ve never experienced sexual harassment over vent (probably because most of the guilds I’ve been in had several women, so guys were used to us talking over vent). However if pugging, and they are really disgusting or rude – I have no problem telling them over vent to knock it off. (But I have that “Mom” tone of voice I can wield when they annoy me and it normally works!) I have found over the years though that male players will behave themselves now much more then they used to. The exception to this is guilds that are predominately military men… who are deployed. Their phrases to each other are DISGUSTING, but still, they usually tone it down (or try to) once they realize I’m female and it makes me uncomfortable. I can see how a shy female, or one who is not familiar with some of the gross things guys say to each other, would be upset.

]]> Comment on What’s the deal with female gamers in voice chat? by Robin Torres http://cosmic-geek.com/2012/04/21/whats-the-deal-with-female-gamers-in-voice-chat/comment-page-1/#comment-360 Robin Torres Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:36:09 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=877#comment-360 I completely agree. In the Drama Mamas I linked, we said that guilds need to have rules against harassment in chat and that they need to be followed. And yes, drama queens can be male too. In fact, I think that more males cause drama than females because there are so many hitting on females and then reacting poorly when rejected. But the females usually get blamed. I completely agree. In the Drama Mamas I linked, we said that guilds need to have rules against harassment in chat and that they need to be followed.

And yes, drama queens can be male too. In fact, I think that more males cause drama than females because there are so many hitting on females and then reacting poorly when rejected. But the females usually get blamed.

]]> Comment on What’s the deal with female gamers in voice chat? by Apple Cider Mage http://cosmic-geek.com/2012/04/21/whats-the-deal-with-female-gamers-in-voice-chat/comment-page-1/#comment-359 Apple Cider Mage Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:28:40 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=877#comment-359 Why aren't we focusing on the problem of men being inappropriate? In a video game, where there's levels of meritocracy and player-run power, why aren't we scolding, shaming, or tossing dudes who harass women or do these things on voice chat out of our guilds? It's probably because a lot of people think this is OK behaviour. Women shouldn't have to stay out of voice chat, we should not be harassing them or treating them differently in the first place. I feel comfortable being on voice chat with my guild, but whenever I speak up on other guild's voice chats, there's always that risk that someone will crack a joke, or say something shitty or bring up that I'm a GIRL ON MUMBLE/VENT!111 when it shouldn't be like that. We should be slapping the hands of dudes who do this sort of thing. Also, the drama queens you mention? Guys don't get called or picked out for doing this, and yet they do. This isn't a woman-specific thing. Why aren’t we focusing on the problem of men being inappropriate? In a video game, where there’s levels of meritocracy and player-run power, why aren’t we scolding, shaming, or tossing dudes who harass women or do these things on voice chat out of our guilds? It’s probably because a lot of people think this is OK behaviour.

Women shouldn’t have to stay out of voice chat, we should not be harassing them or treating them differently in the first place. I feel comfortable being on voice chat with my guild, but whenever I speak up on other guild’s voice chats, there’s always that risk that someone will crack a joke, or say something shitty or bring up that I’m a GIRL ON MUMBLE/VENT!111 when it shouldn’t be like that. We should be slapping the hands of dudes who do this sort of thing.

Also, the drama queens you mention? Guys don’t get called or picked out for doing this, and yet they do. This isn’t a woman-specific thing.

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Paul S http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-296 Paul S Mon, 07 Nov 2011 13:31:30 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-296 it never gets easy. We lost one of ours a couple of years back. Two weeks ago we adopted another, we now have a housefull of 5 (ranging from 9 weeks to 15 years). They all get hugs, all the time. Yes, we are mad :-) it never gets easy. We lost one of ours a couple of years back. Two weeks ago we adopted another, we now have a housefull of 5 (ranging from 9 weeks to 15 years). They all get hugs, all the time.

Yes, we are mad :-)

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Robin Torres http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-295 Robin Torres Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:40:08 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-295 It is. Like the time I found a gaping hole in my crocheted shawl /giggle. It is. Like the time I found a gaping hole in my crocheted shawl /giggle.

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Cris http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-294 Cris Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:35:26 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-294 *hugs* I have a little girl that I'm just crazy about. I can only imagine how much losing her would hurt. But it's sort of nice in a nostalgic way to find reminders of him. *hugs* I have a little girl that I’m just crazy about. I can only imagine how much losing her would hurt.
But it’s sort of nice in a nostalgic way to find reminders of him.

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Robin Torres http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-293 Robin Torres Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:26:07 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-293 /hug /hug

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Tara K http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Tara K Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:18:42 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-292 Aw... That would totally have left me a weepy little blob. Sometimes I find myself thinking of a dog we inherited when I use wooden circulars. He sure loved the taste of bamboo. I'm gonna go find some kitties to squish now. We've got four so I shouldn't have to look too hard. Aw… That would totally have left me a weepy little blob. Sometimes I find myself thinking of a dog we inherited when I use wooden circulars. He sure loved the taste of bamboo. I’m gonna go find some kitties to squish now. We’ve got four so I shouldn’t have to look too hard.

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Robin Torres http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Robin Torres Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:42:01 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-291 Go hug them for me ... whether they want to be hugged or not. Go hug them for me … whether they want to be hugged or not.

]]> Comment on The legacy of Loki by Henry http://cosmic-geek.com/2011/11/05/the-legacy-of-loki/comment-page-1/#comment-290 Henry Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:38:44 +0000 http://cosmic-geek.com/?p=795#comment-290 Poor kitties. Sniff. :looks over at his own kitties. One is sleeping in a window perch, the other on a Risk box: Poor kitties. Sniff.

:looks over at his own kitties. One is sleeping in a window perch, the other on a Risk box:

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